I have always been interested in kink. I love exploring, experimenting & variety. I have explored the kink scenes & swinger scenes partnered and solo. As a demisexual, I require a connection before I can feel sexually attracted to someone. I find pleasure, sex, play & kink more satisfying when I have a deeper connection with the person. When I can trust the person, I am able to fully let go. Vulnerability, honest deeper conversations, teaching me new things, treating me well, living a healthy active lifestyle, emotional intelligence, positive energy.. all these are traits I find attractive in a person. 

I kissed a girl before I kissed a boy & I liked it a lot. I have been bisexual from early on & would now say I m pansexual as I m attracted to all gender regardless of their sex or gender identity, as it’s the energy, certain behaviour traits & connection that makes a person attractive to me. Interestingly, when I shared my first kiss with a girl not long after I kissed two different boys and we ended up in a group making out. This resulted in my exploration in swinging which transitioned into exploring polyamory & non-monogamy relationships.

At this stage of my life, I’m a Domme-leaning Switch & Alpha Female. Different moods and people bring out different energy dynamics within me. I m still exploring both dynamics and love leaning into each when the right opportunity arises.

Submissive: I’m submissive towards people when I feel safe enough to give up control. Submission gives me a balance to my daily life. I m a very independent Woman. Routines and being organised is grounding to me - to give up the control and not being in charge is challenging & satisfying at the same time. Within my submissive role I like to be a “princess” or “bottom/bedroom sub”. I like to be treated with respect within my submissive role. Some of my Kinks (not limited to) that I enjoy within my submissive role are sensation play, sensory deprivation, light impact, restraints, role plays, edging, praise, fisting, electro stimulation, primal play, ropes/Shibari, toys,….

Dominant: I enjoy being in control as the Pleasure & Toy Queen. I claim my pleasures with the assistance of my pleasure servants & demand to be worshipped. I have high standards for myself & like to be treated like a Queen, with respect & good manners by others. I like my direct instructions and acts of service orders being followed precisely. I love training my subs to become a loyal and valuable servant to me as their Queen but also to all Women & Females. However, I also embrace a range of other “FemDom Archetypes”, such as the Seductress, Goddess, Pleasure Slut, Mentor, Nurturer, & Warrior, as desired and needed. You may call me Queen, Majesty, Goddess, Ma’am or Lady. Some of my Kinks & practices (not limited to) within my FemDom role are Queening, worshipping & body worshipping, including feet, muscles, booty etc., teasing, sensation play, sensory deprivation, light impact, restraints, edging, orgasm denial, primal play, wrestling, toys & kinky tools (such as chastity, anal toys, App controlled toys, collars and leashes, restraint and impact tools…), JOI, role play, somatic practices, tantric practices, devotional practices, sub tasks & trainings, rituals, claiming my pleasure & more… More about my FemDom here

I love Tantra & harnessing sexual energy. I m a Goddess & Sacred Alpha Feminine. I love to connect & play with a conscious healthy masculine or feminine - building up that sexual energy for full body orgasmic bliss. Using deep breathing, meditation, sensual massages, other Tantra practices and channeling sexual energy solo or partnered is very divine & delicious.

As a Sensualist I love all things sensuality, including all or limiting some of my senses to focus on the others. Sensation play and deprivation is very pleasurable to me, combined with a bit of kink even better.. eg. restraining, blindfolding, pinwheels, feathers, temperature play, electro play, play with my hair, massage my feet, head, body, bare hand spanking, impact play.. I prefer my impact play combined with sexual & sensual play & only with people I have a deeper connection with. 

As an Experimentalist I love variety. I love to explore and try new things in a safe consensual way. Through that I discovered a love for anal, fisting, edging, various pleasure toys and tools, squirting, role plays, teasing and building anticipation… Through exploration I have also started a hard limit list & will communicate my boundaries.

As an Exhibitionist, I enjoy showing of my body, my pleasures and my delicious being to others to be admired, to inspire and to reduce shame and enhance self-love & pleasure. I have enjoyed being tied on a St Andrews Cross for an impact session at a swingers club party, being tied to a pole for an electro session at a kink party, to be fisted in front of a group of others at another party (which applaud afterwards and took me to side to ask all their questions). I enjoy recording myself, my self- and other pleasures, my toy experiences, sharing it with the world via my Adult fan pages (such as OnlyFans and Fansly). I enjoy being worshipped via my photos I make public on my adult pages such as OF & Patreon. Knowing it turns on others, it helps others to experience more pleasure for themselves, is a huge turn on for me.

Some of my toy passions are 100% borosilicate glass wands (for solo play only), unique shaped & textured premium silicone suction cup dildos, clitoral stimulation toys with an oval opening (air pulse/pressure), silicone tongue with pump combo toys, kinky tools, vibrating butt plugs, rotating butt toys, App controlled (weighted) kegel ball vibrators/wearable vibrators, electro stimulation, other sensation tools…

When I m really turned on and deeply in the moment, my Primal energy is activated and I tend to use my finger to grab & scratch, nibble and bite either myself or my partner including being more vocal. I also enjoy when my partner gets like this. It’s such a turn on for me as sign of deep passion and connection.

I’m a Libra, which shows in my passion of balance and variety. My Venus sign is Scorpio which shows in my desire for deeply passionate, sensual and intense connections, combining the body, mind & soul. I ask for a lot, but I also give a lot. I m more of a “doing it in full swing” instead of half things. I can be very determined & go for my desires & goals. 

My dominant erotic blueprint is the energetic type followed very closely by kinky & sensual type equally. I love energy mixed with sensual & kinky practices. 

I am a Generator in Human design with a profile 6/3, which is the responsible adventurer. I love exploring in a responsible way. I love making my own experiences. The more I do things that align with my own values, that being me joy & the more I listen to my gut instincts, the better energy I create for myself and the more I can spread this delicious energy around me to others. 

My dominant love language is Acts of service. Do something for me that makes my life easier warms my heart big time.

Some of my other passions are lifting weights, yoga, reading, walking, sunrises, podcasts, healthy delicious food,.. all the delicious self-care practices that help me feel good about myself, which turn me on 🫦

I have fallen in love with myself & life itself. As a Hedonist & Pleasure Slut, I prioritise pleasure in all areas of my life. It was a challenging journey, leading me to be my best version of myself, mentally, emotionally & physically - continuously working towards becoming the woman I want to be. I don’t drink alcohol anymore. I don’t smoke and I don’t do drugs. I have made my experiences personally and I have been in very close contact with people who had bad relationships with all of it & I have seen the negative effects it has on the people, their lives and the closed loved ones. Hence, why I find smoking, drug use, daily alcohol & binge drinking & disrespectful, abusive behaviours unattractive.

I’m on the journey to embrace being fully conscious and present..

I’m an anorexia, abuse & DV survivor. I experienced various forms of abuse within my childhood, which resulted in struggling with an eating disorder when I was 17. My life significantly changed in 2017, when I made a stop to Domestic Violence & finally broke out of the cycle. In that moment, my healing journey begun.. As you can hear, I speak very openly about my sexuality, sensuality & relationships. It has not always been that case. After I experienced abuse, I have dimmed my own light. I have shut down my pleasure. I also struggled with loving myself. My self-esteem and confidence was very low, seeking love and validation externally. I gave up everything to please others in the hope they will forever love me. I didn’t prioritise myself at all. It all changed when I finally took responsibility of my own life & took over control of my choices. One right decision and brave step followed another and slowly I healed, improved my self-love & unlocked my pleasure potential.

When I separated from the kid’s dad, I set myself health & fitness goals. I wanted to become healthier & fitter, not just for myself but also for my children. My biggest goal was to become STRONGER – in case I needed to defend myself. I never sticked to a fitness or sport program before, but this time was different. I had a very strong reason WHY & I kept reminding myself of this. After a while, my home workouts became a part of my daily life – a self-care routine. I realised the benefits of healthier eating and regular exercising. It lifted my mood, I was more energised, I felt stronger physically & mentally. I lost weight & built muscle mass. My body shape changed. My confidence & self-esteem improved. My libido was rising. My mindset became stronger. That’s when I knew, I wanted more. I invested in myself and studied fitness & nutrition, while also working in aged care management & looking after my very young kids.

I started my own business “Healthy with Trisha” in 2019 as a PT & Nutrition coach for women. My goal & mission was to help other women make that change to live a healthier life, to inspire and empower them, especially post abuse and DV. I helped many women lose weight, become fitter and stronger & change their lives successfully long term. I realised all of them had one thing in common in their feedback – “I FEEL more confident in myself and in my own skin, my SELF LOVE has significantly increased. And with that other areas in my life have improved (career, love, finance..)!” Thats when I realised that our Self-love is the foundation of our happiest, most successful and pleasurable life. Thats when I got even more passionate about all things self-love & pleasure.

I enjoy inspiring others to understand themselves, find their courage, accept their deeper desires and embrace their personal truth. I love helping others to transform into their most authentic self, to unlock & widen their deepest self-love & experience more pleasure in their life. I love to share my wisdom, skills, knowledge & experiences to inspire & empower others. It brings so much joy & pleasure. It’s my calling!

In 2021, I quit my job in aged care management & as a nurse, moved from SA to QLD & took the risk to go all in working for myself. I started working in the adult industry as an adult content creator & not long after that I started my pleasure toy review journey & blog. Working within the adult industry has helped me to fall in love with my body on a much deeper level. It improved my relationship with my saggy mom boobs and my lower belly/mom pouch. I learnt a lot more about myself, self-pleasure, body confidence, body image,..

I was a lot on the go, go, go & a lot in my masculine energy working and managing life & I knew I needed to find a better balance to also "be in the present moment”. This was the time I discovered Yoga. I felt grounded, calm & more in my feminine energy. Within my yoga training (I m a certified Yoga trainer Level 350hrs) I learnt the yoga poses (asanas), more about the lifestyle, mindset & chakras, energy work, meditation, breath work and journaling, which all had significant benefits that positively affected all other areas of my life. Breath & meditation can be very powerful to unlock deeper pleasure & orgasms though stepping into the body space, which lead me to become a certified breath & meditation teacher as well.

As I continue my journey, I completed my training to become a certified Somatic Sex Coach and certified Tantra practitioner. Combining everything that I have already learnt with my new skills, knowledge & experiences, I rebranded my business to “SelflovePleasure” Now working with the body, mind and spirit/soul. Professionally now, I m a business owner as a Pleasure & Self-love Educator, Tantra practitioner, Pleasure toy reviewer, yoga & fitness trainer, including being trauma informed. I actually wear many more hats within my business & have learnt various other skills over the years. As you might have learnt, I love variety, exploration, balance & making my own experiences. Every phase built up on the previous one - finally combining it all in a holistic approach for ultimate self-love & pleasure. Above that, I m also an adult pleasure content creator running Adult Fan pages as “pleasuretoyqueen”. I create solo content with various pleasure toys. It has been a huge part of my own self-love & pleasure journey, helping me to deepen the love to myself & experience more self-pleasure. As an autosexual, I m turned on by myself and love seducing myself. I love exploring my own body, tasting myself, smelling myself, touching, hearing and watching myself. I enjoy my own body and company. I can arouse & pleasure myself in a much deeper way now.

In 2024, I received the Australian Adult Industry Award for my exceptional work as the Pleasure & Toy Queen. This is a huge step in supporting my mission to normalise pleasure, self-pleasure and the use of body safer pleasure toys. Thank you!

My current journey is exploring my darker feminine energy through exploring my FemDom role as the Queen.

I have come such a long way & I cant wait to guide you explore your own deepest self-love & pleasure.

When you are ready to unlock your own deepest self-love & ultimate pleasure experience, join my Pleasure & Toy School or work with me.

I look forward to connecting with you, with love & pleasure, Patricia